Small boots, big lessons: What my grandson taught me about succession planning

Jul 29, 2026
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Colleen Stegenga

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Colleen Stegenga

My 2-year-old grandson visited my brothers’ farm this past weekend, and I don't think I've stopped smiling since.

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Colleen Stegenga, LCSW-PIP, QMHP, is a farm-raised therapist specializing in agricultural and rural mental health, and founder of Embracing Change Counseling Services. She's building a farm-based therapy office on her own property, set to open July 20, with therapy animals and barn renovations still in progress -- a project close to her heart, and to this column's message about rootedness. Reach her at colleen@embracingchangecs.com or visit www.embracingchangecs.com.