Farm mom advice: Ask for help, make time for yourself

By Lura Roti for South Dakota Farmers Union
May 11, 2025
May 11, 2025

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Growing up on her family’s De Smet, South Dakota, farm, Darcie (Cronkhite) Lee developed a strong appreciation for her family’s farm legacy.

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Farm moms 3.jpg — Darcie Lee with her husband, Rob, and their children: Everett, Esme and Rosene. Rob was a Tri-State Neighbor Crop Watcher in 2022.
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Farm moms 4.jpg — De Smet farm mom, Darcie Lee with children Rosene, Everett and Esme.
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