Cultivating connection: Learning to communicate beyond the farmyard

Colleen Stegenga
Apr 15, 2025
Apr 15, 2025

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The rhythms of farm life taught me early lessons about birth, nature and hard work. Amid the daily choreography of feeding livestock, tending crops and managing endless chores, one critical skill remained elusive in my childhood: meaningful communication.

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Colleen Stegenga, MSW, LCSW-PIP, QMHP, is a therapist and owner of Embracing Change Counseling Services, with offices in Sioux Falls and Mitchell. Reach her at colleen@embracingchangecs.com or visit www.embracingchangecs.com.