A journey through rural grief and healing

Feb 23, 2025
Feb 23, 2025

Colleen Stegenga

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Colleen Stegenga

The loss of a beloved companion often opens deeper conversations about how we process grief, especially in farming communities where the rhythm of life rarely slows for sorrow.

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Colleen Stegenga, MSW, LCSW-PIP, QMHP, is a therapist and owner of Embracing Change Counseling Services, with offices in Sioux Falls and Mitchell. Reach her at colleen@embracingchangecs.com or visit www.embracingchangecs.com.